How waking up at 6am changed my life…

I don’t know about you, but I was always one for snoozing the alarm when the morning would roll around. Just 5 more mins pleaseee!

Doing this was a bad habit that I needed to break. It made me fly around in the mornings, be all over the place, forgetting things, being snappy, being irritated, unorganised, not having time for breakfast, being hangry and just a tornado of anxiety rushing around leaving a trail of disorganised mess behind me. (Which I would later regret as I would be the one tidying it all up later in the day πŸ˜„πŸ€·πŸ»β€β™€οΈ)…It literally made no sense, I would swear to myself that I would go to bed at a reasonable time that night, so I wouldn’t be so tired in the mornings, Always thought of it but never did it πŸ™ˆ… this began to really grate on me so I finally decided to change something.

One day two years ago I set just one alarm for 6am, switched the snooze option off and fell asleep. Morning came around and the alarm went off. Now I knew this was it, no snooze, I rather get my arse up now or i’ll fall back asleep and end up late for work, late for taking Luca to school and just plain LATE for the day ahead. So with that one alarm I dragged myself up out of bed and began my morning routine. Luca still fast asleep so I was able to get ready in peace, which for a parent is one of the best things! πŸ™ŒπŸ» I was able to think clearly so I didn’t forget anything, I was able to have breakfast and even have a little tidy up before we left,?so I didn’t have as much to do when I got home. My day was already going well before I even left the door. I felt so much calmer, organised and motivated for the day ahead. This feeing was something that stuck with me. The feeling of being rushed is awful, it’s my absolute pet hate. It’s enough to make you throw your bags on the ground and say thats it i’m not adulting today. But this newfound having time to spare in the mornings and being able to leisurely get through my morning routine and chores was amazing. So thats how the 6am get up stuck.

Being up before your children works so well too. At the time it can be hard to muster up the motivation to get out of bed while they are still asleep, but it’s so worth it when you get your own time to get yourself and the house ready before they even wake up. It makes the whole day go smoother I promise.

A morning routine sets your tone for the day so heres how waking up earlier can change your life for the better :

β€’ You will become more organised.

β€’ Increased productivity.

β€’ You will become more motivated.

β€’ Have extra time to focus on yourself and your thoughts, gaining more clarity over your life.

β€’ Your days will go smoother.

β€’ You will gain a better bedtime routine – from waking up early, your bedtime routine falls into place much easier. Your too tired to watch one more episode on netflix.

β€’ You will be able to have your own time which makes you feel more fulfilled and content with your life.

β€’ Your house will become more organised.

β€’ You will be on time.

β€’ Reduce anxiety.

β€’ You will have time for things that make you feel good – e.g yoga/meditation/breakfast.

β€’ You become a better planner.

β€’ Better sleeping pattern.

β€’ Better concentration.

Why not give it a go? It took one alarm for me to change, and i’m so glad I did. My mornings have become easier and I feel happier.

Ps. I’m a firm believer in balance, so I only set 6am alarms during the week and I give myself a break on the weekends. I usually don’t have to be up and out early during then, so i’m able to enjoy a little lie in. As i’m a mum I class 7am on a weekend a lie in πŸ˜„ but at least i’m able to enjoy getting up with the children without rushing around. It’s the best of both worlds really πŸ™ŒπŸ».

As always thank you for stopping by ☺️

Frankie x

Things I quit to improve my mental health

Most blog posts on mental health, promote what we SHOULD be doing to create a healthy balance, but have you ever wondered what we could STOP doing to help ourselves? Small simple lifestyle changes can have a BIG impact on our overall health.

Here are some tips on things that I stopped doing to improve my holistic wellbeing.

Late bedtime

Sleep is so incredibly important, I see it as a type of meditation. It’s the time when our mind rests and resets. It rejuvenates us. I used to go to bed at anytime I wanted usually past midnight. The morning would roll around so quick and I would feel exhausted and irritated throughout the day. Creating an actual bedtime was paramount for me, it’s made me wake up fresher. I aim to be in bed before 10.00pm. This doesn’t necessarily mean asleep by then, but just in bed by that time. Read a book, write in a journal or just have some quiet time to think to yourself. (Little tip, when winding down ready for a good nights sleep don’t use technology). This leads on to the next bit of advice…

Social media usage

Don’t set a bedtime and then go to bed and sit on your phone or watch TV the light that our phones and TVs produce make us more alert and awake, making falling asleep much harder. Social media is addicting, we all do it, we all scroll through our social accounts. It can be great but theres another side that can leave you comparing yourself to people online. Comparison steals happiness and can produce a lot of unwanted emotions. Limit social media usage and watch how it changes your life for the better!

Alcohol

Now your probably getting to this bit and thinking she wants me to give up all my fun πŸ˜„. Not at all, I understand alcohol is a part of peoples lives, it’s a minority of people these days that actually don’t drink. All I advise is if your going to drink, do if moderately look at your consumption, alcohol is a well known depressant. If your not feeing your best self, take away the alcohol for a few days/weeks and just see how you feel without. I personally gave up alcohol completely a few years ago and I can’t think of one negative, towards doing so.

Coffee/Caffeine intake

Caffeine is a stimulant, that can cause anxiety. It has negative impacts on your health. Just be aware of how much you are consuming. I don’t drink coffee at all, but there is caffeine hidden in lots of different drinks and foods so just be aware.

Moaning, complaining and gossiping

What you give out into the world, you get back. By complaining and moaning about things you are actually attracting more of those feelings and situations towards you. Be aware of your words and what you talk about. No matter what sort of day you have had always look for the positives and remember theres ALWAYS something to be grateful for. Talk more about what your grateful for, and watch how your mindset will change. You will see your life in a different perspective.

Junk food and exercise

I feel these go hand in hand, now don’t get me wrong I am no where near a health fanatic or a clean eating machine. This is a point that I need to improve more on. But I am aware of what foods and their amount that I put into my body. I also ensure I do some kind of exercise everyday as I know just how important endorphins are for our wellbeing and how good they actually make you feel.

Now for a tip on what YOU should DO

Go outdoors

Being outdoors gives you all sorts of benefits, it’s something I need to do every single day to feel the best I can. It’s so beneficial to me feeling good that I had to share with you! I make sure I go on a walk somewhere in nature everyday. This is part of my self care, it’s what makes me feel good about myself. It’s a stress reliever for me, it helps to clear my mind and think more clearly. Try getting outdoors everyday for 5 days and see you feel.

Remember these tips are designed to help you. Don’t pressure yourself, I just want to be able to share some things that have helped me and may help you too.

You can’t keep doing the same thing and expect a change so why not just give one or two a try and see how it works. ☺️

Thank you for reading!

Fussy Eaters

Oh how I would envy people being able to eat out anywhere with their children, how people would tell me their child eats everything and anything, they only have to cook one meal a night, how they never have to pack a specific pack lunch as their children will eat food from anywhere, how varied their children’s diet was and so on…

Luca’s eating habits were getting worse by the day, my frustration was hitting boiling point and I knew something had to change and as his parent I had say enough was enough and do something different. I was always so scared of Luca going hungry so I would give in to him and give him the foods I knew he would eat, little did I know I was making the problem a whole lot worse. At the height of Luca’s fussy eating I didn’t know anyone who could relate to me so I put together this post of how I changed Luca’s eating habits in the hope to help someone else who is going through the same thing, If your at your wits end with fussy eaters I hope this post helps you, by sharing some tips that worked for us.

Something has to change – Start by slowly introducing your child to new foods on their plate. Then Once a week try and make your child a complete new meal, cut back on the snacks throughout the day so you know they will be hungry come tea time. The pace is slow but keep going, the key to this is consistency.

Give them choice –Β Pick out two meals you want your child to try, both meals should have or be new foods. This is a manipulated choice that allows a child to feel in control. Children thrive on decision making, it gives them a sense of independence which in turn builds confidence. These are the perfect ingredients for getting our little loves to try new foods. Whichever meal he/she has chosen is the meal you cook. You could even get your them to help you cook the foods for a bonus helping hand.

Sticker Chart – Build your child a sticker chat, get some really cool stickers of something they are really into. Anytime your child eats a new food let them put their own sticker on the chart. To make the chart even more appealing you could entice them with the promise of a new toy when they reach a certain amount of stickers, (we started at 5 stickers to make it reachable for Luca).

Patience not attention –Β I know first hand at how disheartening it is when you have spent over an hour cooking a lovely fresh meal in the kitchen for your child to refuse to eat any of it. Don’t shout, don’t force, don’t give into any negative attention. Carry on eating your own meal, and talking to your partner or friend about something of topic. Pay no attention to the fussy eating, only pay attention to the trying of new foods. If he/she refuses to eat any of the food just remove the plate when YOU have finished and try again tomorrow.

I would love to hear how your little ones get on or if you have any other tipsΒ  πŸ™‚Β IMG_7827.JPG

 

No spend weekend!

Hi guys!

First of all I just want to say thank you for taking a little time out of your day to pop over here and read my first blog post, I hope it gives you some ideas and helps you to plan a fun weekend with your children without breaking the bank πŸ™‚

  • Nature walk – Great all rounder! Check out your local council for walks and trails near you. Children love being outdoors being able to explore and use their imagination, it tires them out without you having to do much, so what a bonus! ha.
  • Go on a bike ride – Great workout for the adults too!
  • Go to the park.
  • Go to the beach – Take a bucket and spade and you have hours of fun with the children making sandcastles.
  • Go to a museum – So many different museums around that only offer you to make small donation if possible. Just type in free museums in your area on to google and your good to go.
  • Bake cakes.
  • Gardening – The kids will love to help you plant flowers, dig up weeds and rake leaves.
  • Visit your local library.
  • Visit a pet shop – Manchester pets & aquatics is a firm favourite it’s like a mini zoo your children will love it!
  • Visit your local garden centre.
  • Wash your car – Kids will love helping you!
  • Movie nights.
  • Get creative – Painting, easy crafts, colouring.
  • Make mud pies- If you don’t mind getting messy!
  • Build a den – Indoors or outdoors.
  • play dress up.
  • Play dough.
  • Feed the ducks.
  • Fly a kite – Good old fashioned fun, gets the children outside and you will be surprised with how amazed your children will be when they are able to fly theirΒ  kite by themselves. (If you don’t already have a kite Argos do some great ones)
  • Read books.
  • Go on a leaf hunt – Collect leaves to make a picture with them when you get home.
  • Host a sleepover.
  • Chalk on your exterior walls or pavements – (rain or a bucket of water will wash the chalk away)
  • Festive car ride – At Christmas time we have a little tradition. We bath Luca, put his PJs on, take a blanket and go out for a night time drive. We drive around hunting for houses with Christmas lights & decorations up. It’s fun to make it into a little competition on who can see the most or first set of decorations. Such a simple activity that I’m sure your children will have special memories of as they grow up.

Let me know if you do any other free activities with your kids, I would love to try them out πŸ™‚