lets stop the mum shaming!

 

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Hi guys! hope your all doing good, I just wanted to pop over and write a post about something that has really been getting to me these past few weeks.

Does anyone else feel like everyone is in competition with each other these days? Especially when it comes to parenthood and raising our children! The mum shaming phenomenon where everyone feels entitled to express their judgements is absolutely unnecessary and harmful it needs to STOP!

I’m sure women reading this will understand what I am talking about and the ways in which we are shamed. Every aspect of our lives is looked at and judged, without people even really knowing us most of the time. Everything down to what our children eat, if a mother is breastfeeding or bottle-feeding, co-sleeping, if your a young mum, if you home school your children, if your a stay at home mum or working mum, if your a single mum, even down to how many Christmas presents you buy your children – everything is scrutinised. I think I can talk on behalf of a lot of mums, that we are absolutely exhausted with having the pressure of being the perfect parent. I have spoke to a few friends about this and they have told me that’s just what you sign up for when you become a mother, but I don’t believe it should be this way!

Women should be empowering each other, lift each other up, help each other and spreading kindness to one another. That’s why I wanted to write this post to try and uplift some of you mama’s. If your child has ate fish fingers 3 nights in the row your still a good mum, if your child sat on an iPad for 3 hours straight just so you could get a little peace your still a good mum, if you breastfeed or bottle feed your still a good mum, if you forgot to read your child a bedtime story last night your still a good mum, if the children have stayed indoors all day your still a good mum., if you buy your children lots of Christmas presents or if you only buy your child one your still a good mum. It’s wrong to make a person feel less than because they do something different from you. I’m all about wanting to helping others and trying to empower women. I wrote a post about choosing not to use an iPad whilst Luca is young, but I would never judge parents who do use them not for one second! We all have to do what we need to, to get through the day sometimes, we all parent differently, and I can’t understand why everyone can’t just be content with how they parent without passing comments onto other parenting styles. As long as that child is healthy, happy and safe it should not matter.

Logging onto social media can be the worst playground for the mum shaming, so I’m hoping to spread some kindness over there today. If you head over to my Instagram you will see I have posted a picture, tag a mama you know to let her know she is doing a great job. Make someone smile today, uplift and empower someone today ❤

 

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